In the past two decades, we are witnessing a trend that has
never been witnessed before. The humanity is literally becoming obsessed with
things like external appearance, beauty, various measures and ideal
proportions. The media are creating pressure with their understanding of beauty
of the body. We are reading only about women and men who have won beauty
competitions and we see their perfect bodies exposed. To be honest they have
impeccable curves, enviable line and physical perfection.
However, too often the concept of sexuality is linked to
ideal body line, flat stomach, firm buttocks and hips. Is it possible for
people with Obesity or overweight people to keep their self-confidence and bury the myth about
perfectly sculpted body as the ideal of sexuality and sexual pleasure?
It is quite natural for a person that is dealing with
overweight and obesity, be it woman or man, to believe that their body is
undesirable and unattractive because the glorification of slimness and praise
of bodies with no flaws. This widely accepted perception often shakes the
entire world of people who are overweight and obese and their own body becomes
a problem for good sexual life. Individuals caught in the trap of negative
perception of their body, regardless of their sexual appetite, decide to avoid
sexual intercourse or if they are found in such intercourse, they cannot relax
and enjoy the moment because their thoughts are focused only on the partner’s
perception of their body.
Many women testify about the bad sex life because of the
feeling of shame towards their own body. When it comes to men and their
perception of the female body, many surveys have confirmed that they found
women with few extra pounds sexy and that they are much more interested in some
other elements of sexual relationship like the interest and willpower of their
partner, imagination and initiative, relaxation and many other factors that
have nothing to do with obesity.
In such a mutual inconsistency regarding priorities of
sexual pleasure, the sexual act itself can become disastrous despite the fact
that it has the potential to bring many positive results. Why is this
happening? Women burdened by their highlighted curves, are very often
insufficiently active, avoid spontaneous sex positions that reveal their flaws,
avoid sex during daytime, avoid taking clothes and other things that they find
embarrassing because of their appearance. On the other hand, men in such cases
perceive their partners as superficial sexual partners who are not very open and
active and they don’t realize that behind this inactivity and superficiality
they can find shame and discomfort.
This is exactly why open and honest communication between
partners is important. In this way, both partners will be aware of the overall
perception of sexuality, but also about each other’s expectations.
If you feel quite well in your own skin, do not let the
prejudices, social norms and myths to convince you that having perfect weight
is a necessary prerequisite for sexuality and experiencing pleasures. Simply
relax and enjoy the sexual intercourse and let your partner enjoy too.
